Study of Psychology…Need of The Hour

He was coward, he had so much of money n fame still y he did it, etc, etc ….
Generally people, especially majority of Indians don’t understand that there is something called Mental Illness n there are different types of mental illness. Being mad or Pagal in our desi language, is just one of them n not the only type of mental illness.
Today almost 70% of the generation is in depression, some may feel it , some may experience it n most of them don’t even know that they are under depression.
We as a society don’t give much importance to mental health of a person n moreover someone tries to get treated for his or her mental illness with the help of psychiatrist we just lable them as ‘Pagal’ n at times even laugh at them when they try to share their problems.
But the fact is that human mind is a complex process, millions of congnitive activities are happening in just a matter of few minutes. It’s not easy to figure out exactly what is happening behind that smile someone tries to put on their face when they r struggling through mental illness.
N yes, it takes lot of courage to take own life, the person who takes such a drastic step is not a coward but a completely lost person. You just can’t describe in words the pain, the sorrow, the emptiness, he or she has to go through till that last breath…it’s unimaginable.

Couple of years back, I took up studies in Masters in Psychology n now when I am learning different aspects of human psychology, day by day I am getting this strong feeling that it’s high time that our education system should introduce psychology at school level only.

It will really help individuals at very young age to understand certain important day to day aspects of life in more constructive ways. Just look around how so many young people are committing suicides, can’t accept failures, can’t tolerate other’s point of view…there are numerous such day to day aspects n today’s generation getting technologically advanced day by day but seriously losing Basic Human Technology- How Human Mind Works or What it Requires to Work.

Psychology, though is a very complex science to understand, is actually very simple to implement in daily life. Ultimately, we humans predominantly being social in nature, need to understand ourselves as well as others and adjust or accomodate our life accordingly and thus Study of Psychology is a need of the hour.

Lessons Learnt…

One more Sunday, one more week and finally one more year is about to end or rather I would put it this way- One More Monday, one more week and ultimately one more year is about to begin and that is how it should be as that is the way all I have learnt throughout this year.

The year has been a tremendous learning period and the transformation phase has been very delightful. Now when I look back and realise how far I have come, makes a lot of sense about how beautifully I was able to explore and experience myself. The year has been full of learning and development. The important lessons learnt are, have patience, trust yourself, listen to your gut feeling, listen others as much as possible and then respond rather than react, direct your energy towards the right direction, determine and focus on your priorities in life, acknowledge your emotional vulnerability, accept others the way they are, do things which makes you feel good and lastly three most important lessons- speak up your mind, pursue your dreams and practice gratitude. The list will go on and on as still 2 days to go for the year to end and never know how new experiences will unfold.

Moreover, having best of people around made this journey more meaningful as they bring different perspectives as well as help to keep going.

And I believe this is how life is…a journey of continuous learning and development and it’s completely upto us how we are exploring and guiding ourselves in this entire journey.

The Spitian Magic

So finally Year 2018… One of the most beautiful years is coming to an end n all those beautiful moments are teasing my mind at the moment. 😃Wow😃what an year!!! n the main Highlight of the year obviously was – The Spiti Valley tour. Even after 3 months, the Hangover is still there on my mind n I guess it will remain so through the rest of my life. Yes, seriously… simply because Spiti is that Magical. The Zig-Zag roads traversing through the rocky mountains, the chilling cold weather, at one side you can see the snow-capped mountains while other side is completely a barren land n then suddenly from nowhere you will see some greenery n that enchanting Spiti river flowing parallel throughout your journey, n then those tiny villages- some were located near to the river bank n some were just looking like Hanging on the mountain cliff n vising to the peaceful monasteries located on the mountain tops, n finally sending postcards from the highest post office. All these n more were the signs that we were witnessing a truly Magical World, a world that reminds our tiny existence on this massive planet, created by The Almighty.

So we were a group of 6 strangers, started our journey from Delhi till all the way to Spiti via Shimla- Kinnaur route. The best thing about travelling with strangers is that you get new perspectives to look at life differently and this experience was also not different. A perfect small group with a specious vehicle, beautiful weather n scenic nature, complimented with warmth of locals n their delicious food at their Spitian homestay- a typical wooden Tibetan architecture n an added experience of staying in a Monastery guest house.

On a personal note, for me it was a very special trip for number of reasons.🙂 Since I came back from Kinnaur last year, Spiti was teasing me like anything, especially the Buddha statue at Langza, n the Key Monastery. I was dreaming about all these almost everyday but at the same time was scared to go there. Heard lot of things about weather conditions in Spiti, so obviously was bit scared to travel over there. But then I guess it was more about Spiti Calling for me than just dreaming about it. So finally on a random day with a spontaneous thought decided to take a Travel Break on the occasion of my birthday…n then it was never looking back about my decision. I just Did it n did it quite comfortably with little bit fitness efforts 😉, had an Lifetime Experience n I feel very Happy about it. Indeed Traveling to Spiti was most Fulfilling Decision for me.

Still a part of Spiti Valley is remaining to visit as we could not complete the journey through Manali route due to bad weather conditions…but one day, hope to complete that Spiti Valley circle.✌️✌️✌️

Unexpressions…

Sometimes there are words more than actually required to describe exactly what’s going on in your mind and that’s where you start rearranging the thoughts, to clean up that mess in your mind. Because that’s what is exactly needed at that very moment…just to clean up the mess by sorting out those chaotic thoughts, making unnecessary noise in your mind for so long and One of the best ways to clean up that mess is to write down those thoughts, make way for them to come out, let them breath, let the emotions flow through them n then finally the mind will be at peace. We humans are actually blessed that we can express ourselves through various modes of communication. Expression is one of the most essential need of human beings n in today’s world, many of us purposely are ignoring that need. There are many reasons for this. Some are scared because of the fact that they will be judged, some people think that keeping themselves busy will compensate that need n some think that they are too strong to be weak as they consider expression as a sign of weakness n then there are some people who want to express but could not find the right mode or people around them n just remain unexpressed. N that’s how today’s world is, mostly unexpressed, irrespective of the fact that there are numerous modes of communication do exist but still remain unexpressed. I guess that’s mainly because most of us are just running through our lives just to chase materialistic things than at times taking some pause, enjoy the journey of life n to look for inner peace than running with those chaotic thoughts. Hope, everyone finds the importance of expressions in their lives n keep expressing themselves wherever needed.

Spontaneity- a spontaneous thought

Thinking to write my 2nd blog on WordPress… So many scattered thoughts are popping up from my mind since long but none of the thoughts is getting a structured elaboration which can be penned down as a descent readable blog. Till now all my write-ups were very spontaneous n all were related to my travel journeys. This time also it’s sort of spontaneous decision to hold my mobile n open WordPress to write something new….letc what’s there in the ending.

I feel at times, it’s very crucial to act spontaneously in life, because once that moment is passed we just keep on thinking on that particular matter so long and then that feeling of regret really sucks.

Spontaneity- it comes with lot of risk n at the same time if that risk pays off , it gives us immense pleasure n satisfaction for that act, because these are moments when we exactly listen to our heart n ignore our mind n in the end whatever comes with lot of genuineness and purity. Now that act may be anything. Just like this right now, me writing this random blog with random thoughts without knowing the final outcome. But a spontaneous thought crossed my mind just to write down whatever is coming to my mind n m just acting it spontaneously, finding it funny, little bit weird as well but it’s nice to do such things purposely sometimes. Now that reminds me about things I did spontaneously in my life so far….actually there are many times I acted spontaneously. The best thing I must have done or rather I usually do spontaneously is expressing myself through my anger, care and love. I believe anger, love n care, these are very much interlinked aspects of human behaviour n are very impactful on human life if expressed spontaneously. Here I understand expressing anger is not a good thing. But most of the time anger is associated with unfairness, lie, injustice, anything wrong or is out of love n care only. But yes, we need to control it. And then offcourse, expressing love n care spontaneously is one of the most beautiful feeling in life n comes with lot of happiness, satisfaction n peace.

So basically here I just want to end the flow of my random thoughts by saying- be spontaneous in expressing anger when it comes to taking stand for or raising a voice against any wrong doings but offcourse with some control on your thoughts giving it a practical angle because the world doesn’t act spontaneously all the times rather it’s most of the time manipulative. But when it comes to expressing love n care, I would say- just be genuine, be generous, be spontaneous because the world today seriously need this Spontaneity.

Cheers 😊👍

The Himalayan Medicine

It’s a quite relaxing Sunday evening, just two days back came home after a week long trip to Uttarakhand @ The Himalayas. Done with all the unpacking and now getting ready to face the Monday Blues 😉 So before I wind up for this beautiful refreshing week spent in the breathtaking snow-capped mountains, accompanied by the ever-charged enchanting rivers of Himalayas, wanted to pen down some of the thoughts crossed my mind while I was standing in the middle of the snowy mountain top, attempting my first ever skiing adventure in Auli.

Six years back, the beginning of the year started with my first ever long trip to Kerala. Till then I never had been to such trip, it was only to my native place that we used to go for holidays. So this was special moment for me, travelling with a group of unknown people for such long time was really like an adventure for me. But luckily it was a wonderful experience. Post Kerala, I had 2 trips lined-up for next 2 months. First was at Velas and Harihareshwar, again had an awesome time . Then comes that third trip at Malvan, which turned out to be a life changing moment in my life. On the way back home, I suffered from Facial Palsy which completely brought my life on hold for next couple of years. And that’s the reason during that phase I never thought that I will be ever visiting Himalayas and witness those white snowy mountains in real. Fortunately, my doctor was the magician who through out my treatment, encouraged me to not to stop dreaming those Himalayas, those travel journeys. She was like it just a matter of some days, then you will be back on the roads to conquer those journeys leading to your dream destinations.

And yes, it did happen. After couple of years or so I started with a trek in Sahyadris and then it was never looking back for me. I did my first ever self-arranged trip to Coastal Karnataka with my sis during that Dec. Finally, it was in the month of Feb-15 I visited North India for the first time, obviously not that close to the Himalayas but yes the journey to heaven starts from there only @ Delhi. I had been to my friend’s wedding at Bareily, UP and it was freezing cold out there. I was bit scared since it was for the first time I was exposed to such a cold condition post my recovery from facial palsy. But it turned out to be a wonderful experience and I gained my confidence back and decided to visit north again and that too in the Himalayas. Within 3 months in May, I planned a trip to Shimla- Manali with family and that was actually my first ever encounter with the mighty- gigantic Himalayas. It was magical, it was spiritual, it was peaceful…. 🙂

That was in May-15, I had my first visit to Himalayas with family and since then within a span of three years I have been there for five times now- three times in Himachal Pradesh and two times in Uttarakhand and the upcoming number of trips is countless.

On every trip, I just fall in love with these Himalayas, deeper and deeper…not just because of its beauty but the kind of conversation we have started sharing between Us- The Himalayas and Me. It’s just an amazing experience to stare at those mountains during your hectic long drives, jumbling between those mind boggling thoughts and once you are settled down at the destination, sitting quietly just next to those roaring waters of Himalayan rivers, the mountains starts staring at you and unlocking all your thoughts, going through the mind during that journey, asking you to calm down to the extend that you can only hear the soothing sound of that flowing river. There is so much power in that sound, if one can ever achieve to feel it, can experience the ultimate peace of mind, leading to the ultimate medicine to heal your soul. Yes, that’s why I call it “The Himalayan Medicine”. It has no side effects, it is just so effective that it cures all your mental illness so clinically that it cleanses your mind and soul to the purity.

So folks, please go and get it- The Himalayan Medicine.